Where is my Soulmate?
If you’ve ever asked yourself ‘where is my soulmate?’ chances are that you have to get out of your own way...
Finding your Soulmate
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”
— Elizabeth Gilbert
Before you can find the answer to the question 'where is my soulmate?' you have to ask yourself if you're the kind of person that they will be attracted to.
If you’ve been struggling in the relationship department it may be time to ask yourself some tough questions:
• Do you know who you are and what your life purpose is?
• Do you have confidence in yourself?
• Do you feel that you have something pure and wholesome to offer another in a relationship?
If the answer is ‘no’ to any of these questions, it will be hard for you to attract your soulmate into your life, simply because you still have a lot of personal growing to do.
Gary Zukav explains in his book, Soul to Soul: Communications from the Heart, that relationships illuminate the parts of our personalities that are unhealed – such as the parts that dominate others, please others, judge others, and exploit them. As long as you haven’t addressed those tendencies in yourself, you will attract problematic relationships into your life and recreate these issues until they’re healed. However, once you heal a part of your personality, the playing field changes. You no longer need an abusive relationship, or a dependent one. You no longer need to dominate someone, be submissive to another, or be jealous and possessive. When that part of your journey is complete, it frees you to create true intimacy with a different kind of partner.
Knowing yourself, being comfortable with yourself and having insight into your own needs, limitations and strengths are all part of growing as an individual. If you have passion for living a purposeful life, a soulmate will be attracted to your efforts and support you to achieve your goals.
’A soulmate is someone you have a 'bigger' connection with. It's an attraction that is impossible to ignore...’
The Soulmate Secret
Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: How to Manifest the Love of your Life with the Law of Attraction, recommends that you invest some time, energy, attention and intention into creating what she calls a Soul Mate Wish List. Ford says, ’Making the list requires hanging out in your heart long enough to hear what it is you most desire in a life partner. It also requires a leap of faith. Once you've clarified your unique goals, preferences and tastes, you have to cultivate the trust that the one you've asked for is on the way.’
It’s important to be clear on what your wants, needs and values are when you’re creating your Soul Mate Wish List, so that you can send out a powerful and consistent signal that will attract to you a partner who has principles and goals that are similar to yours. You can take as much time as you need to write your list and it’s completely up to you how long or short it is.
Ford recommends that once you’re happy with your list, to imagine what it would be like to live with your soulmate right now as you write each word on a beautiful sheet of stationery. Feel the joy and gratitude for having this person in your life and imagine vividly what it would be like to live your dream.
The next step is to release your list with some kind of sacred ceremony. The idea is to let go of any attachment to the result whilst putting your trust in the universe to manifest your soulmate in the perfect way at the perfect time. Pick a day and time for your ceremony, read your list out loud and then burn it, release it into a body of water or plant it in the earth. Celebrate in whatever way feels right to you.
Remember that you don’t have to know how, when or where your soulmate will appear in your life. In fact, it’s best to be as open and flexible as possible. All you have to do is to gain clarity on exactly what you desire, release your request, and prepare yourself on all levels to receive him or her.
If you found inspiration on our 'where is my soulmate?' page, feel free to browse the rest of our Love pages too:
* Being in Love Signs
* Healthy Love Relationships
* How to Heal your Heart
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