Consider this: If you know how to stop being a people pleaser, you can finally make some progress on your self love journey.
Do you find it natural and easy to nurture and surprise other people and less easy to nurture yourself? Often we convince ourselves to take 'me time' because it's good for us and for the people around us. Even then, we're still looking for an excuse to indulge ourselves that involves others.
We people-please. We keep the peace. We don't rock the boat. We do everything we possibly can not to spark conflict. We put ourselves last and say 'yes' to things we don't want to do, because we're struck with the 'curse of lovely'. We're given some cash unexpectedly to 'spend on ourselves' and sometimes we even struggle to do that...
But what if we valued ourselves as highly as we value others? What if our gifts to ourselves didn't come with caveats about the 'greater good'. What if our compassion and our nurturing instincts didn't just 'begin at home'—they began within ourselves?
What is the one gift/commitment that you can give yourself now, wholly and guilt-free, that will make all the difference in your life?
Give yourself full permission to become a person of deep value in your own life. Deep value, meaning worthy of deep love. Because the truth is, you deserve nothing less than the BEST.
You deserve time to play, to have fun, to go for long walks in nature, to write in your journal, to read a good book, to enjoy a mandala meditation, to watch the sunrise, to take long candle-lit baths, to dance, to talk to your besties on the phone for as long as you like... or simply to do nothing at all.
You are not your mistakes. You are not your failures. You are a precious human being who is doing your best in a challenging life.
More importantly, you don't have to prove your self-worth by trying to please others. The truth is, no matter how hard you try, there will always be someone you simply can't please.
So stop. Just stop!
Focus your efforts on pleasing YOU. Prioritise your self-care. Make time to do the things you love - without justification and without apology. You'll be a much happier person. And ironically, you may just find that others are pleased with your new-found self-worth and self-love.
Food for thought?
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