Relationship Advice on Getting over a Breakup

by Anonymous

Reader Post on Relationship Advice: 'Getting over a breakup is probably one of the hardest things to do. I didn't think I'd ever be able to let go of my boyfriend. Even after he cheated on me twice, I was still willing to take him back, just so I could still have him in my life.

We met nine years ago while we were both still in school. He was my best friend ~ the only one who understood me. My family life was unhappy and stressful, so my boyfriend became my whole world. He was the only person who made me happy. I didn't think I could live without him.

When we finally moved in together, we still had lots of fun together. We were socially compatible and had a great circle of friends. But he clearly wasn't ready to take on the responsibility of doing his part so that we could make a life together.

We started fighting - a lot, and gradually the stress of being adults got to both of us. We were in debt and he was mostly in between jobs. Sometimes I came home from my job at 8pm or 9pm at night and was expected to cook dinner (even though he was at home all day).

He cheated on me, verbally abused me and eventually left me. I fell into a deep depression - life lost all meaning to me. I begged him to come back to me, for us to try again, but he only got nastier and nastier. It broke my heart.

I fell into a deep depression, stopped working and cried night and day. Eventually my mother dragged me to a doctor, who referred me for counseling. I could finally try to get my life together again.

My counseller gave me lots of relationship advice that I can take with me into my future and next relationship. The most important thing I learnt was not to give my power away in a relationship. By making him my whole world, I thought I lost everything when he left me, but it does'nt have to be that way. A relationship is only one part of life - it shouldn't be the whole pie!

In future, I need to have a happy, healthy, full life before entering into a relationship. I understand now that I have to maintain my own power as a woman who can look after myself and have something to offer the man of my dreams.

I haven't met him yet, but I'm hopeful that I will. In the mean time I'm working towards creating a life that I can be proud of.

Thinking about my ex-boyfriend still hurts, but in a way I'm glad things have turned out this way. Our relationship wasn't healthy and I never would have learnt that I deserve better had he not left me.

I'm looking forward to a better future.'

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